We start by defining toxic friends. With this piece of maculous information found by the power of GOOOOOG©, it means that they say derogatory things about you, they gossip behind your back, apologise without sincerity, make you feel nervous, leave you unsettled and compare you to other people. It’s always about them and never you, and they try to change you.
Overall, they are real estúpido/a. We could’ve ended the article here, but since you are still trying to seek approval from those disgusting people and still cannot tell why toxic friends are terrible from the information mentioned above, allow me to eLabOrAtE.
AHEM. (stacks paper)
Over time, spending time with toxic friends starts to have huge effects on your emotional, mental and physical health. For example, if they frequently body shame you and don't offer the support you're looking for in that area, then you might feel ashamed of yourself and think you're worse than them when you are NOT! Your body is your choice, so it doesn't matter what others say. As long as you're happy, then carry on. True friends, in this instance, would never body shame you or talk smack about you. They may make constructive comments here and there, but it should be nothing hurtful. They make you feel okay about yourself, which is why they are so pog.
Regarding mental health, toxic friends can affect you by making you feel lonely (those damned people). When some annoying airhead is taking up the whole show, you may feel insignificant, not wanted, and most of all, lonely. Your stress can increase because of all the insecurities popping up because of the gossip and comments. You feel unsupported and unconfident. You blame yourself for their behaviour, and it starts to affect your other relationships. You might withdraw into self-isolation (not covronia) and not be willing to talk to anyone else. A true friend would never let this happen, or at least do their best to help stop it. For example, they can make you feel included no matter what. Your true friend is here, with some other cool people for you to talk with and socialise with. They might even invite you to hang out!
Are you feeling unsupported? Well, no matter your true friend is here to support you; they are always by your side, there for you when you need them most. Do you blame yourself for their behaviour? Well, no matter your true friend is here to apologise if it is them in the wrong, they are always honest. So dial 3435 7939 to get yourself a true friend right now! (joke don't dial this number, please) Or dial emergency services SOS asking for a true friend; they will help you find one asap! (don't)
Now to ramble on, I will be talking about how you can solve the issues of a toxic friend if you are struggling with one. Wanting to offer a second chance is okay (I guess….). Sometimes they can get out of hand, but talking to them is always a good first step. Always use "I" statements instead of "you". However, it isn't always the best idea.
1. Dad joke method
If the friendship is genuinely hurting you and causing you problems, it's probably not a good idea to keep going back to it. Just pull a dad and say, “I’m going to get milk”, then dip out the front door.
2. Self-care
Or, if you're too scared (you pus-), try taking time off for yourself. See what life is like without them. If you like it, then yeah, sayonara out of there asap.
3. Chad.
Or if u got balls of steel, then be direct, say, look, this ain't working for me, so I want to end it (make sure to get life insurance before this in case they mald and beat the crap out of u).
4. Stay with them like an actual idiot
Or if you still sEe tHe gEnUiNe gOoD iN tHeM and want to maintain the friendship, just set boundaries. Be like the allies in WWII and be like, look u can't do this, and this or I'm outta here, then their prob gonna be like Hitler and be like, lol no. In that case, just leave. They ain't worth dealing with.
Now onto the part where I have no idea how to write, "Why is Celia so still clueless about it and avoiding the signs of a toxic friend and getting hurt all the time?" Well, to answer that question, lots of people are clueless to toxic friends you can't really tell until one day they get converted to the Dark Side like Anakin, then you be like Obi-Wan-Kenobi and be like, "ha, I got the high ground Anakin, you were the chosen one." Then, they just kinda betray you and dip, and there it's just sudden. No way around it "happens to the best of us ggez no next time" (motto after losing 10 games in a row in Valorant). They just hit you out of nowhere, you get super hurt like
*GASP*
How could you!
then they are like "it is what it is -Ian Yip” . Then eventually, you get over it and either be like "yO lEtS go and meet fake people again! I won't be hurt! :D" Then you get hurt again and rinse and repeat until you finally decide to ditch them. It's trial and error, just like maths problem-solving. So to conclude, toxic friends are asymptomatic like covronia. You don't know until it happens, then you suffer. But seriously, if you have one, just leave them; it's okay. #finduarealfriendmyg